Expanding the Possibilities of Being

Transformational coaching for individuals and groups in times of transition.

Change is inevitable. Transformation is how we meet it.

Change does not always come to us when we’re prepared. Whether it’s injury or illness, career loss, or a midlife awakening, change will ask us not only to shift our behaviors, but to re-imagine and reinvent our very selves.

But stepping back from identities, beliefs, and roles we have held for a long time can feel threatening. We cling to old ways of being or find ourselves in deep waters without a compass. In the gap between what we were (and have lost) and what we might become, there is often suffering. But there is also the possibility for incredible growth, creativity, and joy.

The ability to re-imagine yourself creatively, compassionately, and without boundaries is the ability to live without fear in a world of change. It is the very definition of freedom.

Transformation is not just for queer and trans people. Change, transition, the loss of old roles and abilities, and the need to create new ones are part of every human life. To do these things consciously and intentionally is the beginning of joy.

I invite you to join me in this deeply human, vastly creative, and always collaborative work.

Where are you now?

  • Changes to our physical abilities, whether as the result of injury, illness, or other causes, can create deep uncertainty and pain around our sense of self. Yet the impacts of injury and illness on identity are almost never mentioned in medical visits. If you are mourning the loss of physical abilities, finding it hard to find peace during recovery, or seeking to understand who you are without the activities you used to be able to do, transformation al work can help.

  • One of the greatest causes of suffering occurs when we become stuck in identities that no longer serve us. But the fear of becoming something new, or the inability to see what that something might be, keeps us where we are. In these moments, the ability to see the new person you’re becoming while grieving or letting go of the person you’ve been are powerful practices.

  • Ah, my friend. I know your pain. You have recognized a moment of transition, a shift from a “what I was” to a “what I’m becoming,” but allowing yourself to let go and shift is hard. With the world the way it is, living as your true self, whether that’s a gender transition or quitting a job that no longer serves you, can be scary. Coaching can help you grow into yourself in a way that feels safe, sustainable, and joyful.

  • The promise of something new has got you excited and ready for change. That’s amazing! But so often, we feel the need to change before we know what needs to change, or how to get from here to there. Transformational work can help you tune into your inner guidance, get creative about what might be coming next, and create a practice that will get you there safely and joyfully.

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The moment of creative crisis is the most important moment of your life. It is the moment in which you can become someone completely new and live in a wholly new way.

Transformation as a Practice

Transformation isn’t something that just happens. It’s a practice. In order to become something new—whether as an artist, a leader, an organization, or a Self—we must consciously put aside the ways of thinking and being that have shaped us in the past.

Transformational coaching is the practice of making meaningful shifts in thinking, knowing, and being. The elements of the practice that I work with most are self-study, play, and nonattachment (also known as loosening the grip).

All of these ideas have Sanskrit words that go with them because they are all elements of yoga practice, as well: svadhyaya (the art of self-study), lila (divine play), and vairagya (or nonattachment). These are often misunderstood concepts, so I’ve defined them here if you want more info.

Becoming doesn’t operate with an on/off switch. It’s a practice—and that’s a good thing because it means we can access it intentionally, creatively, and in a safe space.

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I you are in a moment of change—if your inner being is calling out for expansion—transformational coaching might be for you. Let go of fear, find new ways of being, and creative the future you are designed to inhabit.

It’s simple:

  1. Set up a free half hour consultation call to talk about what you need and what challenges you are facing.

  2. Decide whether my particular style of transformational coaching will open up what you need to open up in yourself or your work.

  3. Show up to sessions ready to go deep, learn about yourself, and move and be moved.

  4. Create the self that can live your highest calling.

Meet Mark (They/Them)

I have been through many transformational crises in my life. I started my career as a college professor and academic, moved into nonprofit work, conducted and published research, trained leaders, worked in community building, and coached new faculty. I have been a book coach and writer.

Then I hit a moment of absolute shift, in which everything I thought I knew about myself had to be reimagined and created anew.

Transformational coaching is the result of my decades of working with creative, visionary people and teams, alongside my own life-altering experience of transition and transformation.

If I have learned one thing in all my years of leadership, coaching, teaching, creative work, and transition, it is this: You don’t have to be what you’re being. You can think new thoughts, feel new feelings, and have new experiences. Understanding that is the first moment of true freedom.

You are a being of infinite potential. When you are ready to step into the expansive future that awaits you, I’m here.

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